Thursday, October 22, 2009

A Life in Books -- by Robin

It's been an interesting experience unpacking, organizing, purging and donating...all of which has resulted from our basement construction. But, it's not limited to that. It's impacting our entire home, as I go through closet by closet in an effort to streamline our living. It's quite a task, and not one that will happen overnight.

One thing that has emerged for me, especially this past weekend, when we really made a huge dent in unloading boxes, was that I felt like I was coming full circle. It was as if my life was unfolding in front of me in ways I didn't anticipate.

As I unpacked and placed books, photos albums, etc. on shelves, it was the first time in quite a while that I stepped back to really examine what I had in my hands. I was holding my life. So many of the books (and I have many....as an author...I adore books) resonated with me in terms of where I was at the time I bought or read it. I started having flashbacks.

Books from travel. I turned up journals I had kept as a college student living in Nice, France for a summer. What a treat to read them. And, to peruse through some of my old French dictionaries. It was a good time in my life. It was my first experience living away from home (not counting my college dorm room), and I loved the feeling of independence and the excitement of being on foreign soil. I hung out with fellow students on the topless beaches of Nice (debating if I should go for it or not). Shopped in supermarkets like a local (I was on a budget). Saw my first French film without subtitles (barely understood a word). Took trains to Italy and Paris, and aside from my studies, lived in a pretty spontaneous manner. It suited me.

Also on my shelves were a variety of self-help books, some of which related to G-d andgrief, which were bittersweet, since I had read them after losing my beloved mom. Others were about balance, finding peace, discovering your true life's purpose, etc. Things I still ponder and should probably reread.

I also have many dating/relationship books, since as the author of How to Marry a Mensch (decent person) and my work as a Love Coach for singles (http://www.lovecoach.com/), I endeavor to keep up with the writing of others in this genre.

There were also books on playwriting and plays by some of my favorite writers including Wendy Wasserstein and Charles Busch. (I aspire to write a play one day. Have started....)

Small gift books I had received from special friends over the years.

I even turned up a few books from my teen years that managed to survive my mom's efforts to clean out my childhood basement. Little Women and Little Men were two of them. I had written my name in them, and I tried to think back to when I read them and how much they meant to me. Little Men was a chunky book, but it was a soft paperback, and one whose pages were pliable and worn. I envisioned being perched on my cushy pink backrest on my bed in my small bedroom in the home where I grew up, reading into the night, as I often liked to do.

It's funny how since then, I rarely read fiction. Since becoming an author, my focus has been non-fiction, inspirational books. Yet, as a child, I used to write and illustrate kids books (not for publication...just fun). One title was The First Mouse to Land on the Moon. I still have it, and have shared it with my son, and even his kindergarten class last year when they invited me in talk about my experiences writing how-to books, since the children were working on their own.

Recently, the mom of a student in my son's first grade class, phoned to ask if I'd speak with her son. At age six, he adores writing and wants to get his stories published and on the shelf in a library. I saw myself in him. And, I was more than glad to inspire him to continue writing, but to focus on pursuing his passion, and that he could turn his attention to publication over time. The mom was happy that I was able to speak with him from an author perspective. She didn't want him to dwell on the finished product, but to keep on loving to create stories.

I wouldn't describe myself as a book worm. I'm not particularly an avid reader. I fancy myself more as a collector. I like the look and feel of books. I'll never get a Kindle...it just wouldn't be the same for me....though I know some embrace it.

Of late, many of the newer books on my shelves relate to mothering and health. Everything from Dr. Spock to Dr. Christiane Northrup (who writes about women's health). Whether it be parenting or perimenopause, both can be complex subjects, and these are books I find myself perusing with greater frequency.

I'm grateful our basement construction has led me to this place. It's been a revealing trip down literary memory lane. Kinda like This is Your Life....in Books. Wonder what the next chapter will hold??



PS -- Wanted to give a shout out to Macaroni Kid. It is a free weekly e-newsletter I just learned of that gives you the scoop on local events for kids and families. Check it out at http://www.macaronikid.com/, and if it's not yet in your town, find out how to launch one.

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Thursday, June 19, 2008

SPECIAL BLOG POST: FRIDAY'S FORGOTTEN BOOKS

Miriam the Medium, author, Rochelle Jewel Shapiro, (a wonderful writer & new friend), tagged me to contribute a review of an older book that isn't widely read anymore or a recent book that's slipped beneath the rador, and post it on my blog on Friday. This unique, creative project was launched by writer, Patti Abbot, http://pattinase.blogspot.com/, and I'm flattered to participate.

Since I'm posting this review on MotherhoodLater.com, I have selected a children's title that recently came to my attention.

Had I not become a mother, I would never have had the pleasure of discovering this little gem of a book. So, I have Seth, my son, to thank for this, among other things.

Being the truck-loving "all boy" that he is, his nighttime story reading preference is almost always something related to firemen, rescue vehicles, construction, etc. However, The Gift of Nothing is a title that I've managed to sneak in to our reading repetoire, and I truly appreciate the message of this small tale with a lot of heart.

By Patrick McDonnell (Little, Brown and Company, 2006), whose website is www.muttscomics.com, it delightfully tells the story of Mooch the cat and Earl the dog. Mooch wants to give his best friend, Earl, a gift, and can't decide what to get him. The more and more Mooch thought, he asked himself, "What do you get someone who has everything?" He decides he will give him "the gift of nothing." "But in this world filled with so many somethings, where could he find nothing?" After a failed attempt at shopping and a lot of frustration, Mooch gets a big box, ties it with a ribbon, and puts nothing in it. He presents it to Earl who says, "There's nothing in here." To which Mooch replies,"Yesh! Nothing.....but me and you."

They hug each other, as best friends do, and "Mooch and Earl just stayed still and enjoyed nothing and everything." (as they looked out the window of Earl's home admiring the snowy, wintery outdoors, the darkened sky and moon, relishing in their friendship and the wonder of nature during holiday season.)

I never get tired of this book, and I hope you will join me in teaching your children that in this world of excess, less is more, and pleasure can come from many sources.

I now tag Mary Ellen Walsh, freelance writer and long time friend/former co-worker, to present her forgotten book of choice. For details on her background, visit www.maryellenwalshwriter.com.

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Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Recommended Reads & Music: for Kids & Moms

Decided to take a departure from my typical blog post, and share with you some new books and music worth-noting that have come to my attention of late. You might enjoy checking out the following:

Music:

NAME YOUR TUNE
http://www.nameyourtune.com
Personalized CDs for Children
They make music compilations personalized for each child. Your child's name is a feature part of each song. It's super cute, and a great gift. Seth can't get enough of his.

LULLABIES & WILDFLOWERS
by Melissa Errico
The music is really beautiful. Melissa has a gorgeous voice. She is a critically acclaimed Broadway performer and mom, and this is her first CD for children.
http://www.amazon.com/Lullabies-Wildflowers-Melissa-Errico/dp/B00167TT9Y/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=music&qid=1210690489&sr=1-1

I CAN DO IT BY MYSELF
by Audra Rox
I love this super cool kids band. They perform a lot in NYC, so you can see them live, if you like their sound. Seth & I love them.
http://cdbaby.com/cd/audrarox/

FAST & FEISTY
by Princess Katie & Racer Steve
This is their latest CD. Another really great kids band. Have seen them in concert in NYC, and they totally rock. Very hip lyrics and catchy beats. Seth wants to be like Racer Steve when he grows up.
http://yhst-26705432187197.stores.yahoo.net/index.html

MOMMY KNOWS BEST
by Jeanie B! And The Jelly Beans
Clever, fun, entertaining tunes that kids and moms will love. Amusing lyrics, celebrating a mother's special relationship with her kids. http://www.jeaniebmusic.com

Books on CD:

Billy Brown -- various tales available
Kiddio makes an adorable series of stories on CD about Billy Brown, a fun-loving bear every kid will embrace. http://www.kiddioadventures.com

Books for Kids:

BE HOSPITABLE
by Todd Parr
Todd Parr is for sure one of the coolest kids authors/illustrators on the planet. This is his latest title, a special World United Edition with process benefiting athletes and programs of the U.S. Paralympic Team, of which the Hilton Family of Hotels is an official sponsor. Fabulous colorful illustrations, and a positive message, teaching kids about being hospitable. http://hiltonfamily.americanid.com/ProductDetail.aspx?did=4947&pid=49759

WILLIAM IS GOING GREEN
by James Martin II
Ths is the first book in a new series featuring William the Garbage Truck. William learns about conservation, makes friends, shares lessons, and transforms into a green hybrid recycling truck committed to the fight against global warming. A really meanigful message for kids. Seth, being the truck love that he is, enjoys this tale. http://www.williamthegarbagetruck.com

Books for Mom:

THE MODERN MOM'S GUIDE TO DADS
by Hogan Hilling & Jesse Jayne Rutherford
http://www.amazon.com/Modern-Moms-Guide-Dad-Husbands/dp/1581826060/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1210692400&sr=1-1

MARGARITA MAMMA: Mocktails for Moms-to-Be
by Alyssa Gusenoff
http://www.quirkbooks.com/Book.aspx?BID=286

CHOOSING SINGLE MOTHERHOOD
by Mikki Morrissette
http://www.amazon.com/Choosing-Single-Motherhood-Thinking-Womans/dp/0618833323/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1210692354&sr=1-1

JO FROST'S CONFIDENT BABY CARE
by Jo Frost
"What you Need to Know for the First Year from America's Most Trusted Nanny"
http://www.amazon.com/JO-FROSTS-CONFIDENT-BABY-CARE/dp/1401309062/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1211552706&sr=1-1

SMOTHERHOOD: Wickedly Funny Confessions from the Early Years
by Amanda Lamb
http://www.amazon.com/Smotherhood-Wickedly-Funny-Confessions-Early/dp/1599212080/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1210692287&sr=1-1

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Sunday, November 04, 2007

To Donate or Not to Donate

When Seth was a baby, he and I attended a Mommy & Me program at a school in Great Neck called Open Door. We did it for two years, and it was a really positive experience. I can still think back to those days, when I carried him into the classroom in his convertible Graco carseat/carrier. I was a new mom with so many doubts, questions, etc.

Fast forward....Seth is now 4.5, and Open Door is holding a fundraising sale. I got an email requesting donations. Anything from costume jewelry to new clothing, to children's books, household items, and toys.....in good condition.

We've been storing all of Seth's old clothes, toys, baby supplies, and even his crib, in our basement, since his birth. We recently gave away some of the clothes to friends of Marc (my husband) with a young son. But, I find it challenging to part with things because there is such sentiment behind every article of clothing, stuffed animal, musical mobile, etc.

Yesterday, however, the spirit moved me, and I spent time going through boxes in the basement, and came up with a care package of books and baby toys for the Open Door sale. Unfortunately, I made the mistake of bringing the toys upstairs while Seth was awake, and he took an unexpected interest in a couple of items. He hasn't played with them in a few years, but suddenly he couldn't get enough of them.

He asked why I brought them upstairs, and I didn't have the heart to tell him I was giving them away to a good cause. So, I'm hoping that in a few days, he forgets about them. He has other baby toys downstairs. I didn't clean him out. But, there was something freeing about ridding a bit of the clutter. I just don't want to feel like a cruel mom, giving away Seth's old playthings. My own mom, may she rest in peace, threw out my old Barbie dolls, etc., and I only found out once I moved out of the house. To this day, I still regret not having a Kiddle or two from my childhood.

How long do you hold on to belongings from your child, as he or she grows? It's so tempting to want to keep much for posterity.

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